Start Living Your Life Instead Of Comparing It

The grass is only as green as you make it

Comparison is a double-edged sword. While it can be used for motivation, it’s widely used in a negative way. People compare their life to what others have achieved in theirs. Unfortunately, this is how people end up chasing after the wrong things.

Comparison is a waste of time and a foolish thing to do. People compare their shortcomings to other’s highlights, yet they don’t see what happens behind closed doors. People only show what they want others to see instead of the entire picture. If someone were to show everything, their life may not be as interesting.

What Really Matters To You

When you compare yourself to others, you end up playing a losing game. You will never be happy no matter how much you accomplish. Every time you see someone doing a little better than you, you’ll keep wanting more until you end up losing yourself.

Life isn’t a competition. If you are to compete against anyone, it should be against yourself.

Know Yourself

Most people compare themselves to others because they don’t know who they are or what they want out of life. Another reason can be insecurities they have yet to address. Many people tie their self-worth to matters such as money, cars, houses, follower count, and lifestyle. This false sense of validation has created many unhappy people.

Many people are rich in material things, but poor in spirit. We should focus on our happiness account as much as we do our bank account.

The need for comparison dies once you find what truly matters to you. It’s easier said than done and it will take time. Once you do, you’ll find it easier to celebrate other's accomplishments. You’ll then understand their success doesn’t equal your failures.

My goal in life is to have a nice home on acres of land, a loving family, and enough money to live freely —nothing outside of that matters. I have a friend who wants to live a super-luxurious lifestyle with a mansion and several sports cars. If I were to see him on social media in a private jet, it wouldn’t bother me.

Why? Because that’s his life. Flying private jets around the world is what brings him joy — the same way a garden full of fruits and vegetables brings me joy.

What’s meant for others is for them and what’s meant for me, is for me.

Life is a big yard waiting to be customized to our liking. The more time we spend looking at our neighbor’s yard, the less time we have to work on our own. Our neighbor’s grass may look great, but that’s only because they worked to get it that way.

That’s what we all should be doing. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing, our goal should be to create the kind of grass that makes us happy.

This is what it means to make your grass green.

In the end, there will always be someone smarter, faster, richer, and greater than we are — but they aren’t us. They can’t do things the way we do. Everyone has something special about them — even you, the person reading this.

You may not think you’re all that, but to someone else, there is something special about you that no one else has. Don’t cheat yourself out of being who you were meant to be. We need more original people, and you can help take part in that.

We aren’t meant to live other people’s lives. It’s better to be the first version of yourself than the 2nd version of someone else. We only get one shot at life, so let’s make it count.

As far as work ethic, we as humans can learn a lot from ants. Don’t be nice, be kind.

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