Getting in your own way is something we all do. It’s something I know all too well.
I never had a problem with having ideas. My problem came with execution. There were many things I could have tried, but I would nitpick the idea until I was no longer interested.
One day, I just said to myself, “You have much, yet you have nothing.”
The potential was there, but the mind wasn’t. When I compared the reasons why things weren’t happening, I realized there were more reasons in my control than weren’t. I was the only person stopping myself from success.
I had to make a change. Once I did, everything started falling into place. Who would’ve thought?
That’s the thing about getting in our own way. We block ourselves from letting success come into our lives.
To open up is to give ourselves permission for the life we want. It means putting aside the internal criticism in our head and just doing what needs to be done.
It means pulling the trigger and just going for it.
1. Control The Ego
Ego is what makes us who we are. When we hear the word ego, we think of some obnoxious person that thinks they are better than everyone else. Very seldom do we think of the person who is great at what they do and humbly takes pride in themself.
We are all shaped by childhood experiences that dictate how we live our lives later in life. Telling ourselves that we have to be one certain way robs us of new experiences. We don’t want to let loose and dance at a club because we portray ourselves as the “cool guy” who stands on the wall.
When we take control of our egos, we open the door to new perspectives and get in tune with who we really are. We’re hardwired to think one way and it is often hard to break. The best thing for us to do is simply let go.
To control the ego is to gain freedom. In life, we should strive for happiness and that is within getting rid of what doesn’t matter and finding what does. A healthy ego is understanding who we are but not limiting ourselves to a certain thought.
2. Do Away With Perfectionism
My biggest struggle with creativity is perfectionism. I would delay many things because I wanted it to be it’s the best form. I didn’t want anyone to have anything bad to say about my work.
At heart, my greatest mistake was not allowing my work to be judged.
What makes art great? Art is great because it has flaws. Having flaws is what makes us human. People love flaws because it’s relatable.
Nothing is perfect. We may spend years working on something and think it’s finally perfect enough to show the world. When someone sees it and gives it a negative critique, we are crushed. How come they do not like our work?
Guess what? It doesn’t matter. Put what you have into the world and let it exist. As long as you care what others think you will be a slave to their opinions. Perfectionism is just a fancy way of saying procrastination. As stated earlier, we have to pull the trigger and show the world what we have to offer.
3. Admit When You Are Wrong
The hardest thing for many people is to admit when they are wrong. In truth, admitting we’re wrong takes humility. Owning up to a mistake prevents the situation from becoming bigger.
When we refuse to admit our faults, we are adding fuel to a fire when the fire should be put out. We ruin a chance of building trust with others for the sake of our own pride being intact.
There is a saying that pride comes before the fall. The fall can mean friendships, relationships, or professional connections you may have made.
It comes down to responsibility and respect for others. Many may see failing short as a weakness when it’s common. Acknowledging our shortcomings is a strength that most people admire.
The biggest critic in your life is the person you see in the mirror
4. Accept Your Mistakes
It’s inevitable for us to make mistakes. It’s what makes us human. We will continue to make mistakes until our last days. Sometimes we lack proper judgment and it comes back to get us later on. We need to make mistakes because mistakes are lessons to be learned. We cannot do better until we know better.
Accepting our mistakes helps us to acknowledge a problem and gives us an opportunity to resolve the issue. While mistakes are guaranteed to happen, we should aim to make as few as possible.
“Hey, I’m not okay with what happened, but I can accept that I will do better next time.” We shouldn’t dwell on what we have already done. What has happened is already over with, the best way to live is to have good intentions with our decisions.
5. Get Uncomfortable With Success
The one thing that guarantees growth is doing something new. If you want to become successful in life, you will have to do things you haven’t done before.
People fear being uncomfortable because they’re going into unknown territory. Most of us want to be in control when in reality we have to be okay with not being in control. It’s okay to be in the passenger seat of life.
Aiming for success will cause you to look foolish and you will fail, but one thing to remember is simply trying puts you ahead of those who will never take a chance on themselves.
On the other side of fear is the life we want. Ask yourself, “How bad do I want this for myself?”
When you truly want something you will do whatever it takes to get it. Doubt is something that happens to everyone, but we shouldn’t let doubt stop us from reaching our full potential.
We are our own worst critic and the only person who can stop us from being great. Success isn’t going to find us in our homes and sit on the couch with us. We have to get out there and find it. All you have to do is try. By trying, you can live with the fact that you’ve made an attempt rather than live with regret from not taking action.
The next time you find yourself getting in your way, remember this:
The world is waiting for you to make your mark on it. Someone out there is waiting for you to tell your story and share your creations with them. You are someone's inspiration waiting to happen.
Put yourself out there and do whatever you were put here to do. It’s worth it.